Thoroughly Thursday - the "Be More Lazy" Edition
Welcome back to Thoroughly Thursday, the Be More Lazy edition. I'm not very good at "lazy". Some people seem to have mastered the art of being chill, I usually run around in circles while trying to look productive ("Look! I alphabetized my emails!) since sitting down doing nothing seems deeply... selfish. However, I'm trying to follow the advice from Katie Heaney's great article How to Be Lazy, such as "Schedule your Laziness" (goal accomplished!!), binge-watch your favorite shows ("Archer" on mute), and be more clever (I'll need to work on that one). Careers, families and pets do make it difficult, but in our modern epidemic of overwork we owe it to ourselves to plop on the couch and shout "I'm being lazy!" and stare into the middle distance for the 23 seconds you get before someone tells you to clean out the cutlery drawer or organize the 10,000 photos you uploaded to Flickr. Long Live the Revolution!!
What I'm Watching - 1958 New York Never Looked Funnier
One of the few shows that my wife will watch with me without falling asleep is Amazon's The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. We're about halfway through the first season. Created by Amy Sherman-Palladino of Gilmore Girls fame, it has a great bouncy air to it and a fantastic ear for dialogue. Also, I've really liked the filmmaking where the narrative splits between the story's present 1958 and the past where it first began. Lead actress Rachel Brosnahan had one of the few likeable characters in House of Cards but her character was always really serious (not without good reason), so it's nice to see her in a show that allows her some range. Also, I really like Alex Borstein's character of Susie, who seems to have the best lines in the show, though Tony Shalhoub has the best delivery.
What I'm Doing - You Mean Burt Reynolds Didn't Wear This?
On Sunday, my wife and I ditched the kids and went to the beach. I got to wear my off-white fisherman’s sweater. I’ve owned this sweater for years, but SoCal only gives me a handful of chances each year to dress like Ernest Hemingway or Steve McQueen. Later that evening, I ran into my friend Eric who was wearing his own Aran sweater. We decided that if we had sewed leather patches at the elbows and started smoking pipes, we could both pass for an out-of-work community college professors in 1976.
What I'm Learning - The Gentle Art of Teasing (or the Art of Gentle Teasing)
In our family, we always try to model love, respect, and compassion in relationships. However, when is it okay to joke with someone on their new haircut or comment on their personal choice of shoewear before a meeting? (asking for a friend, though personally I thought I looked fine). Is all teasing just subtle put-downs or can it be a way to create connection? School of Life has a great short video called the Importance of Affectionate Teasing which talks about how teasing, when done with skill by people who care about us, help give us gentle reminders to be our best selves.
What I'm Thinking About - It's All About Your Priorities
"Ambition is a poor excuse for not having sense enough to be lazy." - Edgar Bergen
All the best, and remember, tomorrow is Friday. :)
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P.P.S. Still trying to be more lazy? Check out this handy primer - How to Be Lazy: 30 Rules for High-Performance Loafing